Ep 748 - The Twenty-first Century and the Living Embodiment of the True Family Ideal Part 4
21st Century & Become the Living Embodiment of the True Family Ideal - November 12, 2022
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True love’s most fundamental and greatest attribute is the attribute of living for the sake of others.
Love always comes from the object partner so the only way to be loved is to live for the sake of others.
Everything exists for the sake of others, including our five senses and our sexual organs.
Absolute sex is centered on God.
To change the culture of free sex, we need to return to the culture of absolute sex centered on God and always for the sake of others.
First Love is centered on God in his presence and occupies the entirety of the other person.
Total Love is a love that is centered on God and invests 100%, 120% for the other person and rejoices.
In order to give complete love to the other person, you must first keep absolute purity until God gives you permission and a benediction by your pastor or parents on First Night, and then give your first love to your partner while attending God.
Under God's blessing, the love between man and woman completely occupies the partner.
We can only prove our faith if we are willing to die for it.
To keep my faith and live forever, I must love God not only with all my heart, soul and mind, but also with all my life.
The only way to overcome sexual problems is to love God, and the only way to love God is filial piety.
The only way to surpass the culture of the archangel and go beyond the top of the growth stage is to upgrade our level of love by loving God with our whole heart, mind, soul and life at the risk of our life and loving others as second gods.
If we truly cherish, respect and serve our children with compassion and gratitude as God’s children, whether they misbehave or not, and set an example for them of faith and sincerity as true people ourselves, we will receive wisdom and specific guidance about how to raise them.
“God borrowed my body and my wife’s body and sent his children to us to take care of.”
If before you start family, you practice “His sins are my sins,” then af ter you start family, you will view your children’s sins as your own.
In order to read our children’s hearts, we should take responsibility for our child's shortcomings as our own and repent for them.
We should appreciate our children as blessings from God, view them as better than ourselves and not compare them with other children.
Transcripts from November 3, 2021 to the present, personal notes from November 11, 2020 until November 2, 2021 and slides from August 29, 2021 to the present are available at MD.Hoondok.com as PDF files.♦
Because I need to go to Las Vegas, I need to record Morning Devotion.
Today I’d like to talk about “The Twenty-First Century and Become the Living Embodiment of the True Family Ideal” from True Mother’s Anthology, Book 2.
<This speech was given at the 3rd International Convention of the Women's Federation for World Peace held on November 17, 1997 at the Grand Hyatt Hotel in Washington, DC.> Why did God create humankind? Usually, men say that they can live by themselves. Men are usually unconcerned with why they were created. A man was born for the sake of his wife. Nothing was created for man by himself, nor for a woman by herself alone. Look at our five senses. Were my eyes created to look at my eyes? Nose, ears, mouth, hands–all of them were created for the sake of the spouse. The force that mobilizes and focuses all five senses is true love. Eyes, nose, ears, mouth, and hands were created as a tool for the use of true love. Nothing is created only for myself. On the contrary, a person who says that what belongs to others is “mine” is called a thief. When someone takes the things of others and uses them as his own, isn't he a thief? Therefore any man who uses his five senses and his body as he wants to for himself alone is a thief, since these exist for the sake of his wife. To whom is a man's sexual organ absolutely necessary? It exists for the sake of his wife.
Each lives for the sake of the other. At the place where husband and wife become completely one, the ideal couple will be created. In that very place, absolute love exists. That place of love, which is absolutely unchanging, is the dwelling place of God. Fidelity in marriage, which we can call absolute sex, is centered on God, and free sex is centered on Satan. Where does true love begin? After one sacrifices his or her own life and becomes resurrected, having invested again and again, we must try one more time. Since we have inherited a fallen lineage, we have to persevere and overcome evil influences at the cost of our lives. The coming time is the age of one world under God. God is working for this kind of world and will always help those people who also are working for the same goal. However, there are many people who want to live in that kind of world, but do not want to participate in God's providence to help make it a reality.
Everyone, do you know what is true love’s most fun da mental and greatest attribute? It is the attribute of liv ing for the sake of others. All beings are created to live for the sake of others from the moment they are born.
Then why do we have to live for others? That is because love always comes from the object partner. God can create and feel everything, but even though he is an almighty and omniscient God, He cannot create or feel love alone. Even though God is almighty and omnipotent, he needs an object partner. He cannot create love and joy by himself.
Even God cannot deviate from this principle. In order for God to receive and feel love, He must live for human beings.
In that sense, I have no other choice if I want to be loved. The only way is to live for the sake of others. All beings are created to live by that principle.
Why did God create humankind? Can men live by themselves? If a human being can create love and joy by himself, he does not need God.
A man cannot live without a woman. Likewise, a woman cannot live without a man. Similarly, God cannot live without human beings, and human beings cannot live without God. A woman cannot live without a man (nor a man without a woman). In the end, nothing is created for the self.
It is the same even when we look at our five senses. The eyes spend more time looking at others than looking at the self. We look at our partner a lot with the eyes of love, we smell our partner a lot with the nose of love, we listen to our partner a lot with the ears of love, we encourage our partner a lot with the mouth of love, we give gifts to our partner with hands of love, we hug each other a lot with the arms of love, we often go to meet our partner using the feet of love, and we go to find our master of love with the sexual organs of love. All of this was created for the sake of the other person, right?
The force that mobilizes and focuses all five senses is true love. Eyes, nose, ears, mouth, and hands were created as a tool for the use of true love. Nothing is created only for the self.
What is sin? It is when I think of myself and everything I have as belonging to me. Such a person is a thief, Mother said.
To whom is a man's sexual organ absolutely necessary? It exists for the sake of his wife. Everything exists for the sake of others.
Therefore, absolute sex is centered on God, and free sex is centered on Satan and the self.
Free sex is the problem. It is very much centered on oneself. In order to change the culture of free sex, we need to go back to the culture of absolute sex. Absolute sex is always centered on God. It is always for the sake of others.
LIVING DIVINE PRINCIPLE: The Human Fall 7
The Fruit of the Tree of the Knowledge of Good and Evil(1)
• The fruit of the tree of the knowledge of good and evil signifies the love of Eve.
• As a tree multiplies by its fruit, Eve should have borne good children through her godly love. Instead, she bore evil children through her satanic love.
• Eve was to reach full maturity only after going through a period of growth, in which it was possible for her to bear either good fruit or evil fruit through her love.
• This is why Eve's love is symbolized by the fruit of the tree of the knowledge of good and evil, and why Eve is symbolized by the tree.
• Eve was to have eaten the fruit of goodness by consummating her God-centered love. Then she would have received the essence of God's divinity and multiplied a good lineage.
• However, she ate of the fruit of evil by consummating her evil love centered on Satan. Hence, she received the essence of his evil nature and multiplied an evil lineage from which our sinful society descended.
• Accordingly, Eve's eating the fruit denotes that she consummated a satanic love relationship with the angel which bound her in blood ties to him.
Let’s study Father’s word.
Eve’s Mind When she Experienced A Sexual Relationship for the First Time
<33-329> First love is to rule over everything. Who is the subject of love? It’s God. Because the subject of love is God, there is only one being who can love. The first love is to be experienced with God. But this didn’t happen and the Human Fall was the result. With whom did Eve experience love? -with the archangel. But she made love crying and frowning although it was supposed to be good. People, do you think that she would say, ‘How nice it is! It’s very yummy to eat the fruit of the tree of the knowledge of good and evil!’ when she committed the fall? How did she feel when she was being raped by the archangel? She gave in to the temptation feeling the pangs of conscience even though she didn’t like it. She made love in such a way that all her cells were shrinking and her heart was fading although it should have been the love where all cells are happy and all flowers are longing for an everlasting spring.
First love is centered on God and occupies the entirety of the other person. Total love is a love that is centered on God and invests 100%, 120% for the other person and rejoices. All cells dance in this love.
Originally, first love was to be experienced centered on God. But who did Eve experience first love with? “She did it with the archangel.”
Because Eve's first love was with an archangel, she was frowning and crying while receiving the pangs of conscience. Eve was unable to completely occupy the archangel because she had been raped by him. Receiving love feeling the pangs of conscience is not complete love.
Therefore, in order to give complete love to the other person, you must first keep absolute purity until God gives you permission. Second, you must love while attending God.
Under God's blessing, the love between man and woman completely occupies the partner. But love done without permission causes pangs of conscience forever. Therefore, on the first night of making love, you should love your partner centered on God. Love on the first night must be done in God’s presence.
How was your first night? Did you do it centered on God? Or were you centered on yourself? Therefore, on the first night, you should start by receiving a blessing benediction from your respected pastor, Abel figure, or your parents. Your parents are the best. First love should be offered to God first.
That is why when our second generation say that they are going to start family, parents need to bless them. They need to do the first night with God. The beginning should start with God.
This kind of guidance and education for our children is very precious.
How can I Prove my Belief?
<37-247> How can I prove my belief in myself? Not with this nation, nor with our relatives, nor with things. We should prove it with our lives which are the most precious. Can we believe in ourselves even though we may die by doing so? Adam and Eve were told they would die after eating the fruit of the tree of the knowledge of good and evil in the Garden of Eden. But by recklessly taking the path of death, they caused the Human Fall. That’s why without resolving that, you should protect what you believe in even though you may die; otherwise you can’t prove what you believe in. There is a law for everything. You will never die if you love the Lord God with all your heart, will, and even your life. Isn’t it true? What is the primary problem when you reach your limit of offering devotion? It’s whether you can devote your life for God’s providence or not. When people compliment you, even when people reject you and when you are being drawn into the trap of your enemy, you should be able to devote your life.
How much could Adam and Eve trust themselves? What will prove that their beliefs never change? What will prove that my belief never changes? Neither the nation, nor our relatives, nor our own parents, nor things can prove this.
I can only prove that my belief never changes with my one and only life. Can we keep our faith even though we may die by doing so?
Although Adam and Eve were warned by God in the Garden of Eden that they would die if they ate the forbidden fruit, they failed to keep their beliefs and fell.
Therefore, even if I am resolved to die and willingly give up my life, I cannot prove that I have an unchanging belief unless I am determined to keep my belief.
Therefore, in order to keep my faith, I must love the Lord God not only with all my heart, all my soul, and all my mind, but also with all my life. That is the only way to never die and live forever.
In other words, while on the path of God's will, would I be willing to devote my life for the will? The question is whether you are able to devote your life when people compliment you, even when people reject you and when you are being drawn into the trap of your enemy.
The bottom line is that you will live forever only if you do not change your conviction to love the Lord God with all your life. If you love yourself first without believing in the eternal and unchanging God, you will become fickle and die in the end. In that sense, loving God is (our only) option.
Filial piety to God is (our only) option. The conclusion is that those who cannot solve the problem between man and woman and cannot control themselves cannot die for the sake of the will and cannot love God.
The only way to overcome sexual problems is to love God, and the only way to love God is filial piety.
How can we surpass the top of the growth stage? Most human beings are under the top of the growth stage. We are living in the archangel culture, Chapter Two culture. How can we surpass Chapter Two culture, the culture of the archangel?
There is only one way. We need to upgrade our level and quality of love. How do we upgrade it? I often speak about this. There is no way other than to love God more than anything else at the risk of our life. God is our top priority and our lifeline. Our relationship with God is our lifeline. “He is my father, my mother, my parent; I am a child of God.”
This relationship is our lifeline; therefore we need to love God more than anything else. This is the only way to upgrade our level of true love.
Secondly, horizontal relationships are also important. When you see your neighbor, your brothers and sisters, your spouse, your children, your Cain and Abel, seniors or juniors, or whatever, you need to treat them as a second God. You need to treat them and serve them as God.
Serving and loving parentally your brothers and sisters and vertically loving God, only through that kind of serving and loving and caring and attending can you upgrade your level of true love and surpass the culture of the archangel.
If we are still possessed by Chapter Two thinking, horizontal thinking and complain about this and that, we are still living under the culture of the archangel and our spiritual level is still very low class. That is why even though horizontally (you try) to solve this and you talk, talk, talk, you cannot solve the problem. The only way is to upgrade your level of love. How can we upgrade it? Only when I truly love God. God is my lifeline. That is why Jesus gave the first commandment. We need to remember this point.
TODAY’S YOUTH MINISTRY: Children’s Education
The Most Important Thing in Your Children’s Education
1. The most important thing in educating your children is to give up your mind of educating them. The first thing to reflect on as a parent is how sincere and faithful I have been to my children so far. In the education of children, all wisdom is revealed when parents truly love and respect their children. Wisdom will not come if parents only worry about their children without setting an example.
A person’s spirit darkens when their closest relationship is cut off first, and horizontally, when they have no compassion for the object partner. If you do not have a good relationship with the person you should be closest to, and you do not have compassion for them, you build a wall in your heart.
Even if children are upset and inflict pain to their parents, if parents respect and cherish their relationship with their children, Heaven will give them wisdom. Parents become dark when they worry about their children more than they reflect on how true they have become themselves. When they think, "Oh, I'm really worried about my child," their spirit darkens.
Let’s summarize this very important guidance about how to raise our children. The most important thing in your children’s education:
1. As a parent, completely abandon your desire to educate your children.
You need to completely throw away, “I need to educate my children.” You should completely abandon that mindset and attitude.
2. First, parents should always reflect on how much they have shown a faithful and sincere example to their children.
This is the priority.
3. When parents truly love and respect their children – because they are not my children; they are God’s children -- wisdom about how to raise their children will come.
If there is no respect and no love, then no wisdom will come at all.
4. Wisdom will not come if the parents themselves do not set an example and only worry about their children.
Worry! Worry! Worry! Then God will say, “You need to worry about yourself first.” What is the root problem? You need to settle (yourself) first. You need to solve your own problem first before worrying about your own children. Without (resolving) your (own) problems and just worrying about your children, you will never solve the problems.
5. Even if children are upset and give their parents pain, if parents respect and cherish their relationship with their children, then Heaven gives them wisdom.
Wow! This is really good guidance.
6. When parents worry about their children more than they reflect on how true they have become themselves, they become dark and build a wall in their heart.
Wow! I am so surprised about this guidance. I (need to) reflect a lot about my own situation: How I am raising my (own) children.
Parents’ Attitude Towards Their Children
2. When parents deal with their children, if they think, “Thank you God for sending this child to our house,” they will develop a precious heart for that child. Then they will not ignore their child. When parents think of their children from God's point of view, they automatically value their children deeply and do not ignore them, and they automatically gain wisdom on what to say and how to guide them.
However, if you think that they are not a child of God but your own child and discriminate against them, you become darker because you do not know how to guide them. That is why our attitude in daily life is important. In order to get along well with your own children, you should not find faults when dealing with others. Don’t think, “That person shouldn’t do that… “ When I look at the other person's shortcomings and worry about them, my heart darkens. Instead, you should feel sorry for them. And you should have respect for them no matter what. This is the way to gain wisdom. Where does wisdom come from? Wisdom comes from respecting others in any situation.
Let’s summarize parents attitude toward their children:
1. The attitude of parents toward their children should be, “Thank God for sending this child into our home.”
We should not treat our children as our own children. “God sent these children to me. This is God’s son and God’s daughter. They are really a prince and princess of God. I can take care of these children on behalf of God. God asked me to take care of his own children.”
Our mindset needs to (include) this attitude. When we think, “You are my son or daughter,” already our concept is completely wrong. From that point we have already made a mistake.
“God borrowed my body and my wife’s body and sent his children to me to take care of.” True Mother’s mother, Daemonim, had this mindset.
2. When I think of my children as God’s children, I develop a precious heart for them, try to serve them first and never ignore them.
As an example, (imagine that) one day a boy escapes from somewhere, comes to our home and wants to live with our family. Later on we come to realize that that child was a king’s son or daughter. Should we treat him (or her) as our own child? We cannot do that.
The same is (true for our own children).
3. If you serve, attend, and cherish your children before you dominate them, you will automatically gain wisdom on how to guide your children.
4. If I think of my children as mine and not God's and discriminate against them, no solution will appear, and I will become dark.
If I treat my children as my own children and not God’s children, this is discrimination. Then we become very dark.
5. In order to raise our children right, we need to go through a lot of training in our daily lives.
6. Do not find faults when dealing with others in your daily life. If you worry about the other person's shortcomings, your heart darkens. Instead, train him to feel sorry for those shortcomings.
That’s why when you see someone’s shortcoming, treat it as your problem, your own shortcoming. Then when you come home, you (will) treat (the short comings) of your children, of your own family members as, “These are my own problems.”
When you raise your children and see your child’s shortcoming and treat it as his shortcoming and blame and scold him, surely your heart will darken.
7. In any situation, you must train yourself to have respect for the other person.
8. Where does wisdom come from? Wisdom comes from respecting others in any situation.
“Oh, my child is so bad! How can I respect him? First of all, this problem comes from where? It comes from your blood lineage. You need to repent yourself. Even though he has short comings, his own inner value or original value comes from God. He is God’s child. No matter what, you need to protect your sons and daughters as God’s children. Then God will provide wisdom about how to take care of them.
Worry About Yourself Before You Worry About Your Children
3. Don't worry too much about your children. Before you worry about your children, worry about yourself first. Treat your children as superiors, not inferiors. And always think about how you can help them. When you see your children’s faults, you should think, “Oh, my habits and fallen natures have gone to that child.” You must think, “I made my child like that. Everything was caused by me,” and take responsibility for your children’s shortcomings no matter what happens. However, thinking, “But why is my kid like that? I didn't do that when I was young...” and comparing like this and worrying about fixing your child casts a shadow over your heart and darkens it. Then darkness will occupy your heart. Darkness enters your heart when you worry about others more than you worry about yourself. Therefore, don't worry about your children. Rather, you need to repent for what you have been insincere about so far. If you worry about your children, you become foolish.
Worry about yourself before you worry about your children.
1. Before you worry about your children, worry about yourself first.
2. When dealing with children, treat them as superiors, not inferiors.
3. Whenever you deal with your children, think about how you can help them.
Because they are children of God, you need to treat yourself as a servant and attend the King’s sons and daughters.
4. When you see your children’s shortcomings, think, "Oh, my habits and fallen nature have passed on to that child."
When I see my daughter or my boy, sometimes I see their own fallen nature. How much they resemble my own fallen nature! I cannot blame them. Before starting my family, I did not solve this issue. That is why my children inherited this from my DNA, all kinds of fallen nature.
5. Think, “I made my child like that. Everything was caused by me.”
6. Have a heart to take responsibility for your child's shortcomings no matter what.
7. When I compare my children with other children and worry about fixing them, it casts a shadow over my heart and darkness takes it over.
8. Darkness enters your heart when you worry about others more than you worry about yourself.
9. Rather than worrying about your children, repent for what you have been insincere about so far.
Educational Measures for Children
4. Some people will ask you this: “How can you not worry about your children?” “How can you avoid worrying about your children?” Some people may want to say this. Then I will ask them, “Do you, as a parent, think you are better than your own children?” “Is the child’s problem not within me?” If I ask this question, they will not be able to answer. Many parents do not think about their own issues and only blame others. Therefore, we should consider the sins of others as our own. Parents should regard their children's sins as their own. This is the wise way. Therefore, the conclusion is that wisdom comes only when I always respect others and show compassion for them. So, don't worry about your children's education. In order for parents to read and understand their children's hearts, they should not think of their children as their own, but rather think of them as God’s children. If you think like that, Heaven will provide you a plan for how to specifically deal with your children. This is a fundamental educational plan for your children.
Educational measures for children:
1. To anyone who asks, “How can you not worry about your children?” ask them if they think they are better as a parent than their own children.
2. In fact, all children's problems are inherent in their parents.
3. Many parents do not think about their own problems and only blame others. Therefore, we need to train ourselves to regard the sins of others as our own.
If you blame someone for his shortcomings, your heart becomes darkened. I have that experience. If I criticize and complain to someone, then my heart has a problem. In that situation of complaint and dissatisfaction, if I still have compassion and love for him and treat his problems as my own problems, then my heart is never affected by that.
4. Parents should regard their children's sins as their own.
(If) you already practice (this) in your daily life before starting family: “Your sins are my sins; your problems are my problems; your situation is my situation,” then when you start your family and see (your) children’s sins, you will treat them as your own sins.
This is the wise way.
5. Wisdom comes when I always respect others and show compassion for them.
6. Therefore, in order for parents to read and understand their children's hearts, they should not think of their children as their own but as children given by God.
7. If you treat your own children as children of Heaven, Heaven will provide you with a plan for how to specifically deal with your children.
These are fundamental points for the education of children, right? This is incredible guidance.
(Testimony Rev. Dong Hun Lee, Korean Ministry leader, Chicago Family Church)♦
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