Ep 772 - The Role of Women Has Become More Important Part 3
Opening, Inheriting and Fulfilling the Era of the Victory, Liberation and Completion of the True Parents - December 6, 2022
Key Points
In order to drain the swamp of self-centered egoism in religion, politics, education, culture, ideology and every other field and to pull down the walls to communication surrounding everyone, we need to establish one Godly world family of passionate true love so ardent that it “covers” each other’s sins.
To establish a culture of heart, we must break away from the love of the satanic world.
Retainers in the Old Testament Age were the angels, Jesus in the New Testament Age, True Parents in the Completed Testament Age; and Heavenly Tribal Messiahs in the Cheon II Guk Age (The Age of God’s direct dominion).
Couples should always try to learn from each other, even if they dislike the topic. Interest is love.
Help your spouse to recognize and resolve any flaw, not by teaching, but through natural surrender from serving and serving..
Avoid stereotypes and preconceptions.
Think that all actions, even styling your hair or dressing, are for the sake of your partner.
Hair style, makeup and clothing style are for the spouse’s sake.
Discussing even trivial things can become a heartistic exchange.
We need to always be careful, even in small things. Always ask whether this is for the sake of others or not.
We should not assert ourself, even 1%.
Transcripts from November 3, 2021 to the present, personal notes from November 11, 2020 until November 2, 2021 and slides from August 29, 2021 to the present are available at MD.Hoondok.com as PDF files.♦
I came back to New York from Chicago.
Today we have a meeting with the International Headquarters. I recorded this because it is almost at the same time as our Morning Devotion. I ask for your understanding.
Today I’d like to talk about “The Role of Women has Become More Important” from True Mother’s Anthology, Book 2.
<This speech was given at the World Women's Peace Network General Assembly held on March 25, 2012 at the Beache Palace Resort Hotel in Muchangpo, Korea> Taking it a step further, WFWP members in all continents and countries including Korea, the International Headquarters of WFWP, as well as Japan, the United States, Asia, Europe, Oceania, Canada, Central and South America, Africa, and Northeast Asia, are developing and carrying out various projects adapted to their local needs. As I witness the fact that the power of women is changing society and achieving amazing accomplishments in the construction of a peaceful world, I cannot but feel proud of and grateful to all of them. As can be seen, from the founding of WFWP to reaching the highest standing as an NGO in Consultative Status under the UN, our members have never lost heart and have pioneered the path of women's peace unyieldingly with an unchanging heart. Therefore, I would like to give a big round of applause to express my infinite gratitude and love for them, and also for the women leaders who have never failed to give us their encouragement and participation.
Distinguished guests from home and abroad, and beloved WFWP members! Even now tens of millions of innocent lives are being lost each year to war, disease, starvation and natural disasters that arise in all parts of the world. In every field you observe, be it religion, politics, education, culture or ideology, everyone ranging from individuals to large masses of people are deeply mired in the swamp of self-centered egoism, and are raising walls around themselves. We now live in a world where everyone is cut off from one another, for there is no communication between them. When all is said and done, the problems afflicting humanity can only be resolved through the ideology of one family under God, in other words, the ideology based on true love, which my husband and I, the True Parents, have received from Heaven and have championed and taught throughout our lives. This is because this ideology is the only way for humankind to find the path toward peace and happiness.
In every field you observe in today’s world, be it religion, politics, education, culture or ideology, everyone ranging from individuals to large masses of people are deeply mired in the swamp of self-centered egoism, and are raising walls around themselves.
We now live in a world where everyone is cut off from one another, for there is no communication between them. When all is said and done, the problems afflicting humanity can only be resolved through the ideology of one family under God, in other words, the ideology based on true love.
The culture of the world of heaven is, in a word, the culture of true love. Therefore, when we live on earth, we must love each other very passionately. In order for us to change the fallen culture of this world to the culture of heart, the most important thing is to break away from the love of the satanic world. In order to do so, we must center on God's love and restore ardent love.
So what does the Bible say? If you look at 1 Peter 4:8, it says, “Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins.” The extent to which we must love a person is to love passionately until the other person's shortcomings are covered and their shortcomings are not visible.
The fact that I can see the other person's shortcomings is proof that I do not fully love them, and it also means that I still have a lot of fallen nature. Love covers all sins and transgressions.
How much should I love my spouse, my children or neighbor? When you see someone’s shortcoming, you need to love that person until you completely cover that person’s shortcoming. That is true love . That is why if I really love someone whom I cannot love, I cannot see his shortcoming, his weak point, any more.
That is why I love this Bible verse: 1 Peter 4:8: “Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins.”
How can we have that kind of true love? We love someone we cannot love and finally cover that person’s shortcomings and any kind of transgressions. If we really love someone, we can no longer see his shortcomings. That is the nature of true love.
LIVING DIVINE PRINCIPLE: The Human Fall 10 - The Motivation and Process of the Fall
The motivation of the human fall lay within the angel. Therefore, before we can know the motivation and process of the fall, we must first learn about the angel.
• Angels were created by God prior to any other creation.
• God created angels to be His retainers (Heb. 1:14), "servants," (Rev. 22:9) and "ministering spirits,” (Heb. 1:14) who would assist Him in creating and sustaining the universe.
• Because God created us human beings as His children and gave us dominion over all creation, we are meant to rule over the angels as well.
Based on that, let study Father’s word.
The Angels were Retainers in the Old Testament Age
<7-265> The angels were retainers in the Old Testament Age, and a son was the one in the New Testament Age. And now we are in the direct era when we can call God our Father. With what can we do that? With God’s words. In order to do so, God’s words should convey His heart and there must be substance through the words.
Here is very important guidance by our True Father.
1. The angels were retainers in the Old Testament Age on behalf of God;
2. A son (Jesus) was the retainer in the New Testament Age with the heart of God;
3. True Parents were retainers in the Completed Testament Age with the heart of Heavenly Parent; and
4. Heavenly Tribal Messiahs are retainers in the Cheon II Guk Age with the heart of True Parents (Now is the Age of God’s direct dominion).
We need to fully take ownership as the owners of Cheon Il Guk. The Era of Parents is already over. Now is the era of the children. As a filial son or daughter centered on hyojeong, we need to convey (the) Blessing to the people. Heavenly Tribal Messiahs are retainers in the Cheon Il Guk age with the heart of True Parents because the age of God’s direct dominion has come.
TODAY’S YOUTH MINISTRY: Couples Should Always Have Interest in Each Other and Try to Learn
1. Couples should always try to learn about each other and have interest in each other. When your partner (spouse) shows themselves to be very different from yourself, even if you notice it for the first time and find it strange, you need to ask each other and learn. You cannot carelessly say “Since I don’t have interest in that area, if that’s what you want, go ahead. It doesn’t matter to me if you do this or that.” For example, when the husband (wife) does something you see for the first time, you need to have the attitude “Oh~ I didn’t know this side of my husband (wife) until today. I learned something new again through my husband (wife).” You first need to think, “Why does my husband (wife) do that? What does that mean?” However, even if they do something a bit strange or different from you, if you immediately say without even thinking “That behavior is wrong. If it were my father, he wouldn’t have done that,” such hurtful words will make the wife (husband) cold-hearted.
Such details! Right?
Couples should always have the attitude of trying to learn from each other rather than trying to teach each other. Even if there are shortcomings in the husband and wife that need to be corrected, rather than trying to teach the other person directly, you should first have them realize by serving them, not through the mouth. Let them realize through my serving, my attending them. That is natural surrender. When there is a problem between husband and wife, don’t try to solve it by talking to each other. Let (your spouse) surrender naturally through serving and attending.
I came to realize (this) after going through so many difficulties. Finally this was my conclusion. Father talks about this very clearly.
You cannot correct your spouse through talking, through teaching. How can you change your spouse’s weak points and shortcomings? Let him or her surrender naturally through serving and serving without talking, without teaching.
A couple's interest in each other is love. Even if the field that the other person is interested in has nothing to do with you, you should try to learn about it with interest.
When you lose interest in each other, the couple gradually becomes heartistically distant. Between husband and wife, even if the other person likes and is interested in a field that is completely different from mine, and even if it is a field that I hate, I have to learn about it with interest.
For example, my wife is a pianist. She learned (piano) from five years old. Her entire life, most of her youth, she played the piano. Finally she went to a famous music university in Tokyo. Then she joined our church during her fourth year at the university. When she joined, she completely gave up the piano.
I am a minister; she helped me by playing the piano, but I was not interested in that area at all. When she always tried to play the piano, I had no interest at all. Later on I really reflected on that. At least I need to pay attention. (For me) it was a completely different area. (Now) I am so sorry to my wife!
Sometimes we easily judge and criticize our spouse, right?
“My husband is such a person.” “My wife is always like that.” If you treat your spouse with that stereotype, the relationship will no longer develop. Even if the other person behaves a little strangely, you should always ask each other and learn from each other.
Even if the wife knows the husband and the husband knows the wife well, if they treat each other with preconceived notions or existing habits, there will be no novelty between them. In the end, the hearts of husband and wife dry up.
When I see Father’s matching, the husband and wife characters are completely different, 100% different, 180 degrees different. Even though (they may have a) different character, different personality, different hobby, we need to learn about each other. If you don’t have an interest in that content area, still you need to learn and pay more attention.
This kind of effort, even though you don’t like it, if you put in your effort and try your best to unite with your spouse, how beautiful it is!
Normally we ignore it completely. Then we cannot improve our relationship. How much effort and heart do we (invest) to unite with our spouse?
Think That All Actions and Motivations Are for Your Partner
2. True Father also said this sometimes but have women ever asked their husbands how she should style her hair? Most of the women have their hair styled the way they want it to be. Even if the husband is not interested in his wife’s hairstyle, she should live with the heart of discussing about it. “Honey, today, I want to do my hair like this. What do you think?” How many people change their hairstyles by asking this question? Most women will say, “Oh my, what a childish thing to ask.” This is a simple example, but do not always think about doing what you like centered on yourself. I must become someone who does things with the motivation of making my husband good. It is the same for the husband towards his wife. Whatever you do, you must become a husband who does it to make your wife good. You need to have the heart to do everything for your partner. How I should adorn myself or dress up should be for my husband (wife). Even if my husband hates it, can I say, “It’s good if I like it”? From now on, even if you style your hair, you should always do so while thinking of your partner.
How about heavenly Honey?
Couples should discuss trivial things with one another. When a woman wants to style her hair beautifully or when she wants to put on makeup, in the end, it's for the benefit of the other person.
Even small things no matter how trivial can become a heartistic exchange by asking and discussing with one another. A woman (man) should not always focus on themselves or think that they are doing what they like, but they should be the one who wants to do it with good intentions for their husband (wife).
You must have the mindset that everything you do is for the sake of your spouse.
Discuss even small things together. You already know your husband or wife’s (interest?). Still ask, “What do you think? How is it?” Discuss even small things, trivial things. Through discussing and sharing, you become closer and more heartistic as husband and wife.
Do Not Assert Yourself Even 1%
3. It is the same for men, but women, in particular, often decide everything depending on their mood. Problems arise because they act according to their physical mood rather than centered on the heart. Without thinking about it, we first say “it’s cold, it’s hot, it’s delicious, it’s not good,” depending on our mood. For us not to make a mistake, we must first think. And we also need to take a look at the other person’s position. If I speak based on my mood, I need to check whether it will hurt them or not.
True Father said that while women look in the mirror and put on makeup, they need to think “am I putting on makeup for God or am I just doing it just because I want to?.” He said that they just try to make themselves look externally pretty without thinking about these things. If you ask, “Who told you to put on makeup?” there might be many women who respond “Why do you ask such a thing? I do it because I want to. Do you have to ask about my makeup, too?” The reason we are talking about this is because we have to think about who we exist for, even for the smallest things. Always think about God, and always think about your partner. In other words, do not assert yourself even 1%.
The same goes for men, but especially women often decide everything based on their mood, right? Problems arise because people act according to their own physical mood rather than centering on the heart.
Our character is like the weather. Korean people often say, “Your heart is so changeable.” Before going to the toilet (and) after coming out of the toilet, we have a different mood or heart.
In order to not make mistakes, we must first think. And we must look from the perspective of the other person. If we speak according to our mood, we must check whether it hurts the other person or not.
We have to think about who we exist for. Father said, “Women were born for the sake of men. Men were born for the sake of women. The husband was born for the sake of the wife; the wife was born for the sake of the husband.”
We should always think of heaven and of the other person. In other words, it means that we should not assert ourself, not even 1%.
Always think for the sake of others. ... Other means what? He is God centering on True Parents. In our home our spouse is our God, our spouse is True Father or True Mother. Father teaches us such details.
Why did Abraham fail? Because he did not split a very small dove. He ignored it and did not divide it in two. That was a really serious problem. His descendants needed to suffer for more than 400 years in Egypt.
Always we make small mistakes that later (become) incredible problems. We (need to) always be careful, even in small things. With small things we need to think whether this is for the sake of others, for our spouse, or for our own sake. Human beings are very sensitive even to small things. That is why we should not assert ourself, not even 1%.
Today I spoke about “Couples should always have interest in each other and try to learn.”♦
NOTE: This text and the PowerPoint slides from this speech are available as a link at the top of this text. Transcripts from November 3, 2021 to the present, personal notes from November 11, 2020 until November 2, 2021 and slides from August 29, 2021 to the present are available at MD.Hoondok.com as PDF files. Books of the transcripts and notes are available as PDFs at MDBooks.Hoondok.com.
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